Creating an Exit Strategy
If you are thinking of leaving your partner you need a plan. People are sometimes so anxious to get out they rush into exiting the relationship without an exit strategy. This is not the way to do it with a narcissist.
If married, a divorce without a plan could mean you end up losing custody or a home. Ask yourself, “What is my goal and how am I going to get there?” And then factor in that this is a narcissist and understand things are done differently with a narcissist.
TIP: You do not have to remain the victim of a narcissistic parent and you can choose to set boundaries to keep them from bothering you in your adult life.
Life After…Moving To Happy
You Have Many Possible Futures
Which One Will You Choose?
Your Fault? NO!
You may have been told for so long that everything was your fault, can’t do anything right, you’re not smart, and so all of a sudden, you don’t know your strengths and the things that are right, and good, and healthy about you.
Try this: you identified an abnormal relationship and you took action. That meant you used certain character strengths – you used wisdom and perseverance. You nurtured your children; that means you have the capacity to love and be loved. You aren’t dumb and it isn’t your fault and I want you to get back in the game of life now! So jump in and read my outrageously named book on the site I put up…because I wanted to! and I wanted to call it dumb blonde and I did.
A Quick Fun, Easy to Read Get Back on Track Book and Choose one of Your Many Possible Futures!
This is a fun to read self help guide will make you laugh, encourage you, and help you get back on the road to happiness again. Find out why dumb blondes aren’t and how to find fun and go places without an abuser hanging around!
Go ahead…see what you can do, who you can be!
A LITTLE GUIDE FOR BIG GIRLS: A One Hour Fast Track Guide to Do-Overs
“This book is a blessing. Organized, thoughtful and full of pain and how to deal with it, I salute you for telling us your story and analyzing the “divorce industry” as you call it. You have saved my daughter thousands, she learned what to say in court, and best of all she got custody.” – This is a guidebook and my story. A how to plan for a difficult divorce.
If You Are Ready To:
- Live Without A Toxic Partner,
- Learn the Steps To Take Before You Say You Are Leaving,
- Learn How To Make Your Next Relationship a Good One (what red flags to look for)
- Re-engage With Life after Divorce
Then You Are Ready To Learn what to do / how to do it / when to do it
How To Leave
If narcissistic personality disorder or other emotional abusers are ruining your life, take action. The narcissist does not get better, but you can. Many people are both afraid to leave and afraid to stay thinking they are alone and nothing can be done.
Often, upscale abusers are perceived as being able to buy their way out, leaving the abused feeling completely powerless. Learned helplessness means you think you have no power to change a situation. It leads to depression. IT IS NOT PERMANENT. You have the ability to change yourself, your beliefs and a bad situation. You can UNlearn the feeling of helplessness.
Action is the antidote to depression.
Life can be good again. In fact, the more you act positively, the more your brain changes.
Ann, you have touched and positively healed so many deeply injured people and that certainly includes me. You have been my lifeline a million times, I have felt understood by you and not alone, you have educated and encouraged me, I have learned from you that I am not crazy, just badly traumatized including physically by the relentless domestic and legal aggression and the losses I have absorbed. Oh, Ann, you have helped me fight off a terrible sense of humiliation, shame and guilt.. And for being fatigued and sick and weepy. You are part of my clawing my way back up….E.K.
Go here and find the rest of this site. It’s chock full of information on identifying a narcissist, divorcing a narcissist, choosing the right attorney for this situation, and custody information specific to difficult divorce situations.
Identifying red flags in relationships so you don’t make the same mistake again. Ever wonder why you choose the same bad partner over and over again? You can break free of this cycle and kiss abuse good-bye forever!
The eBook…that takes you through my divorce with a narcissist. Startling description of fraud, tax evasion, emotional abuse, survival techniques and a look at the legal system.
If you want to see what divorcing a narcissist is like, this personal journey will show you why you need to prepare, plan and get help.
DIVORCE: The Real Truth, The Hidden Dangers, Surviving Deception, Betrayal and Narcissism