Narcissistic Abuse is…
…. verbal abuse, physical abuse, put downs, manipulation, betrayal, lack of empathy, accusations, failure to communicate, lack of intimacy. What is Narcissism? It is all of this and more. Relationships are never easy but an abusive one is damaging in so many ways.
Narcissism is a world that looks like that of everyone else. But it isn’t. It’s the fun house, Alice in Wonderland, Wizard of Oz version of reality where the Mad Hatter rules and the curtain hides a coward and no one is sure of what they see and everything is distorted.
Welcome to a place where you can learn about narcissistic abuse, leaving it behind, how to do so and how to thrive in your post toxic world. Here, you can communicate with others or just sit back and read and learn you are not alone. There is life on the other side of abuse.
You do not have to be the victim of narcissism (narcissistic personality disorder). You don’t have to lose your confidence, hope and passion for life because you are in a relationship with a narcissist. This experience can be a catalyst for growth and self respect and learning how to cope with difficult events and circumstances. You can learn the skills to move beyond.
I’m Ann Bradley and you can find out more about me here Ann Bradley
What is Narcissism? What is Narcissistic abuse?
When the infrastructure of a building is gone the collapse is inevitable.
We use that analogy to draw us in to the collapse of a life; a collapse orchestrated by a narcissistic wife or husband with assistance from the legal system. From that collapse, arises terror, fear, pain and loss of voice. But listen carefully, for brave voices thunder through the universe with truth and power and refusal to accept the silencing. These voices embraces pain and demand justice. This is a hero’s journey: a heart motivated fury, outrage tempered with wisdom and these voices are a gift to all of us.
What is narcissism?
Narcissism is categorized as a personality disorder by the mental health profession. It is referred to as NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Few are ever diagnosed because few go to therapy. Narcissism is not high self-esteem, but a condition where the typical narcissist suffers from
- Preoccupation with hiding real or perceived flaws
- Overestimation of importance, achievements, talents and skills
- Maladaptive attention seeking behavior
- Inability to empathize with others
- Excessive anger and shame in response to criticism often resulting in rage
The narcissist will often manipulate others, especially partners, to control them. Projection and blame are hallmarks of this manipulation. It is estimated that 85% of narcissists are males. This site respects all victims of emotional abuse, both male and female.
KNOWING YOU ARE NOT ALONE IS IMPORTANT
Many people think they are the only ones victimized but you are not and you are in very good company. You don’t have to suffer when you leave, and you can learn from what others know. Men – don’t be alarmed that it refers to narcissistic men – we know it is just as applicable to women.