Word Salad and Stealth Transaction Fees
Oh how clever the narcissist: learning the language of manipulation so that it appears normal. They will act relaxed, laid back, and even serene with you. But the tab is running. They will make lists, and demands and never, ever, show compassion when needed. You will pay the price of the sloth of the emotional jungle with the cunning of the stalking lion..
You are the prey. Be good and you will not be rewarded or helped but you may not be punished. But insist on your right to be human, be appreciated, be heard and to be validated and suddenly reality will warp all for his gain and your demise. He will spare nothing in this game of lies and twisted truth. He has to: this is his power place and it calms him down. You pop up and he smashes you with gaslighting, fraud, untruths and will define you to be unrecognizable. The more you have done the more he lies – he knows you are a sucker.
Everything is conditional and his needs are paramount. Tell him you cannot do something and watch the lists arrive with bullet points of drama fueled half truths, half lies of all he has done for you but not one word of all YOU have done. Ever.
Why does he do this? Years of devaluation from primary caretaker taught him how to protect his interior life from pain. But the more he runs from pain the more pain he experiences and the more he needs to feed you lies and reminders of how awful you are, though in reality, you have been anything but.
They may pretend to be supportive and they certainly will shout that they are but the support is as strong as a bridge of feathers. The infrastructure with these people is a house of cards. You are replaceable. You are forgotten and another victim is sought to release the dopamine. The narcissist is the one most likely to spend hours with online sex because it gives him feel good chemicals and he doesn’t have to be emotionally involved. Only his hand and his penis.
Ashley Madison data has revealed it was mostly men talking to men – the number of fake female profiles was almost the entire female data base. But does it matter? The man who wants to cheat and betray is not the man you want – he can’t tell that he’s talking up a man pretending to be a woman because his emotional depth is near zero. Interestingly most men say the same thing over and over in online sites and love to hear themselves pretend to be studs. Women know this and are easily bored but some make a career of it, not for long as the price they pay is huge: beaten by pimps, drugged to do yet another web cam – but the one thing the online cam girls have in common: low self -esteem and abusive pasts.
You are the target of the pathology. Ok, now you know what you already knew! Get out already! Life is short!