You choose. Do we have the glass half full playbook or the glass half empty? The silver lining playbook or the nimbus cloud?
It helps to be born with the optimism gene and let life’s little terrors bounce off your resilient back. Not only do glass half full people usually get to choose which silver lining they want, they have healthier immune systems, laugh more, have more friends and end up wealthier. Health and wealth and an endless checklist of ways to get through the tough times does appear to make the journey easier.
But, you say, you were not born with the optimism gene. What then? Misery, poverty, a lonely, short and sick life?
Not necessarily. The nimbus cloud that follows you around dropping storms, the glass that always looks like it will soon be empty, are movable, changeable. DNA is not always destiny.
It isn’t always easy falling into crevices where others grow wings or reach for the stars and grab only cosmic dust. Life seems to be so easy for some people. But if the roll of the cosmic dice didn’t bring you a loving family of origin or a trust fund or a gene to make you burst out singing “I’d Like to Teach the World to Sing” in public, you can take heart that there are such things as post traumatic growth, and know that adversity brings resilience,
“You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves…Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting – over and over announcing your place in the family of things.” (Mary Oliver)