return to narcissisticabuse.comDAVID CHASE, WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THIS?I read an interview with Mr Chase in the Stanford Alumni Bulletin about his hugely popular HBO show, The Sopranos. I remember it was not nearly as interesting as Catherine's analysis of Tony Soprano. David, if you find this, talk to me....
Catherine gives us her insightful analysis of why she thinks Tony Soprano is a narcissist. She tells us that the one and only
Tony Soprano.............- puts himself above all others
- does not like to be confronted and walks away when there is conflict (from his shrink, from Carmela, from his own brotherhood, from immediate family members)
- sees the successes or failures of his children as a reflection of himself (not as individual beings with their own wants and desires and needs)
- sees Carmela as an object (as a reflection of him) and part of the furniture
- hurts and kills (emotionally and literally) without remorse
- conducts his life without remorse
- follows his own creed
- emotionally (or sometimes physically) manipulates others to get what he wants
- follows the narcissist's "golden rule": "YOU DO SOMETHING FOR ME AND THEN I MIGHT DO SOMETHING FOR YOU...BUT ONLY IF IT DOES SOMETHING FOR ME!"
- everything has a condition or stipulation attached to it (I'll do this for you if you'll do this for me) WITH EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING in his life
- he is a sexy flatterer and cajoler but can turn around on a dime if crossed and hold a grudge for the rest of his life
And WHY is Tony Soprano a narcissist? Remember his relationship with his mother? She was an evil female version of the same...