by Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D.
The extreme narcissist is the center of his own universe.
To an extreme narcissist, people are things to be used.
It usually starts with a significant emotional wound or a series of them culminating in a major trauma of separation/attachment.
No matter how socially skilled the extreme narcissist, he or she has a major attachment dysfunction and is frozen in childhood. He/she became emotionally stuck at the time of his/her major traumaof separation/attachment. In my work with extreme narcissist patients I have found their emotional age and maturity corresponds to the age they experience their major trauma. This trauma was devastating to the point it almost killed that person emotionally. The pain never was totallygone and the bleeding was continuous. To survive, this child hadto construct a protective barrier that insulates him/her from the external world of people. He/she generalized that all people are harmful and cannot be trusted. The protective insulation barrier he/she constructed is called a false persona.