Did Ashley Madison just enter your life? Maybe it did and you are shocked or perhaps finding your partner’s email there was only validating what you suspected. Either way it hurts like hell. Your trust is gone, your center is not holding, you feel like your emotions are the most out of control things in the cosmos.
Will this end the relationship or lead to a discussion? Some will go one way, some the other. The only wrong thing here is the betrayal from your mate to you, not the decisions you make in moving forward. But the decision making process is going to be one of the most difficult things you have ever done. When the hurt of betrayal is all you can feel it is hard to know what paths are right for you.
For over 12 years I’ve been working with the betrayed and the pained. I’ve seen amazing transformations arise from fear and pain and hopelessness. One woman I worked with is an attorney, another a therapist. Some remarried. Some are single and some still finding their way. The road to recovery is never a straight line but it isn’t all trauma forever. Post traumatic growth is what we aim for and we get it.
I want to help you get through this. If you have been thinking of a consultation, now is a good time. Whether he is a narcissist or a jerk or a good guy done bad, it doesn’t matter. YOU need a helping hand and a way through the darkness.
Here is a post I wrote on betrayal a while ago. I think you might like it now: Betrayal Hurts
Scroll up to Consultations and Books if you want to make an appointment. You can get through this. I know that because I have seen it time and again. Years ago a woman asked me to publish a letter to a judge on my site. The judge had taken her kids from her. I did. Two years later she asked me to take it down as she was now in grad school. She told me, “That letter was the one thing I looked at every day to remind me I had power too. It got me into grad school.” Now, she is Director of a Social Services Unit. We are strong, even when harmed. It’s ok if you don’t feel strong today or tomorrow. And crying is ok too. And so is hope, especially hope.