About Me

I live and work in Palo Alto, CA,  just south of San Francisco.  My 3 children are grown and only the youngest is still in college.  I've been both a stay at home mom and also worked my way through undergraduate and graduate school with 2 kids.  I attended the University of Pennsylvania, and did my graduate work at Antioch and Stanford University.  I've had a career in the computer industry here in Silicon Valley, and I've also been an editor for an educational publisher.  I published in academic journals while in grad school at Stanford and also lectured there.  I was a founding member of PACER -  Post Adoption Center for Education and Research and served on the Board and as Director of Research. During my own difficult divorce I trained with Dr. Martin Seligman   former President of  the American Psychological Association.    Learning positive psychology  from Dr. Seligman, instead of focusing on pathology, made a huge difference in my life and that of the son still at home with me at the time.   I now use the skills of positive psychology in my coaching work and the benefits of doing so have been huge.  Whether you are trying to understand your difficult relationship, or want to know how to handle a narcissist, or how to leave, I have information and experience  and skills to help you.  I have been a survivor of a toxic relationship and of the legal system. I know what you are going through. I work with people through email or private sessions.   If you are in the San Francisco Bay Area, I can see you in my office or we can meet in San Francisco. BOOK:  I was shocked to discover what divorce was like when I went through it.   I put together my story, I interviewed others, I tell what I learned about judges and lawyers and made it into a book.  It has been used in divorce study groups and many have written to tell me it served as warning and hope.   My opposing counsel was so corrupt my own attorney reported him to the bar. That is unheard of!   If you have not yet become divorced and think yours may be difficult, go behind the scenes with me of a corrupt legal system and trying to divorce a narcissist.  DIVORCE: The Real Truth, The Hidden Danger, : Surviving deception, betrayal and narcissism. After you have downloaded the book, which is an immediate download, I send you an update and a bonus book. Because my divorce went not only to trial but to the Court of Appeals, I had to update and let my readers know the end of the story.