Ann Bradley, M.A. is a consultant, coach, speaker, and the author of Let’s Talk About Narcissism and DIVORCE: The Real Truth and Hidden Dangers. Ann’s books are available on Amazon Kindle, the iBookstore, and the Nook. She attended the University of Pennsylvania, Antioch College and Stanford University (Ph.D graduate studies). Ann is a certified positive psychology coach who studied with Martin Seligman, PhD. from the University of Pennsylvania. She has extensive experience working with high conflict divorces and the men and women involved in them.
Narcissistic Abuse
When the infrastructure of a building is gone the collapse is inevitable.
We use that analogy to draw us in to the collapse of a life; a collapse orchestrated by a narcissistic wife or husband with assistance from the legal system. From that collapse, arises terror, fear, pain and loss of voice. But listen carefully, for brave voices thunder through the universe with truth and power and refusal to accept the silencing. These voices embraces pain and demand justice. This is a hero’s journey: a heart motivated fury, outrage tempered with wisdom and these voices are a gift to all of us.
What is narcissism?
…it is verbal abuse, physical abuse, put downs, manipulation, betrayal, lack of empathy, accusations, failure to communicate, lack of intimacy…it is all of this and more. Relationships are never easy but an abusive one is damaging in so many ways.
Narcissism is categorized as a personality disorder by the mental health profession. It is referred to as NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Few are ever diagnosed because few go to therapy. Narcissism is not high self-esteem, but a condition where the typical narcissist suffers from
- Preoccupation with hiding real or perceived flaws
- Overestimation of importance, achievements, talents and skills
- Maladaptive attention seeking behavior
- Inability to empathize with others
- Excessive anger and shame in response to criticism often resulting in rage
The narcissist will often manipulate others, especially partners, to control them. Projection and blame are hallmarks of this manipulation. It is estimated that 85% of narcissists are males. This site respects all victims of emotional abuse, both male and female.
KNOWING YOU ARE NOT ALONE IS IMPORTANT
Many people think they are the only ones victimized but you are not and you are in very good company. You don’t have to suffer when you leave, and you can learn from what others know. Men – don’t be alarmed that it refers to narcissistic men – we know it is just as applicable to women.
CLICK HERE to learn about breaking up with a narcissist so you don’t have to be alone in your struggle.
